![]() ![]() Of course, these things aren’t true of me, but the fact that they’re happy to be seen with me makes me wonder. I could be a terrible person on the inside, spewing venomous rhetoric, a ball of negative energy, and they are still happy to be seen with me. Really, it makes me feel like they’re proud of the fact that they could land a girl that looks like me. ![]() ![]() They say “thank you,” smiling as if they had a role in producing my curls and the shape of my face or were present at my conception. But there’s always a side of them that is proud when someone tells them their new girlfriend is gorgeous. He means well - they all do - and I choose carefully. I never truly know if a boyfriend cares about me or is just happy to be seen with me. “How could I say no to a face like that?” I’ve heard that one a few times. I’m riddled by insecurity, never certain if people are agreeing with what I say and my opinions because they actually see truth in what I say or because I have a likeable face. I’ve been trying to shrug off my looks for years. I’m more comfortable admitting aloud that I’m pretty, but being beautiful is what I’ve come to terms with. ![]() I’ll tell you something I wouldn’t say out loud but which I’ve heard enough times that I’ve come to believe it is true. Of course, there is always the brand of beauty that is smug and sluggish, the sort that is the only asset the possessor can parade. The pretty girl has a handicap to overcome.” Meir was the fourth prime minister of Israel. Not being beautiful forced me to develop my inner resources. Golda Meir was famously quoted as saying, “Not being beautiful was the true blessing. In the back of their heads, however, there is always one lingering thought, an oft-spoken phrase: you’re nothing but a pretty face. Those who are beautiful try in vain to compensate for the connotations attached to their appearance. People look at a beautiful person and have a wealth of stereotypes at their fingertips. Maybe I just need to lighten up, but I don't think so.Being beautiful is a burden. I don't just mean things like men making catcalls at women on the street, but even if a girl jokes that her boyfriend is good "eye candy". It seems demeaning no matter what gender of person you are talking about, even though it sounds like a compliment to the person who says it. It might feel weird to call your boyfriend's roommate handsome, but you could easily call him eye candy. To me it can also describe people who are just acquaintance, or who you don't know at all, yet find attractive. It's suggesting someone is good looking and fun, without being over the top. I don't have a solution, except suggesting we all pay a little less attention to looking "perfect" But I still don't think there is anything wrong with a little eye candy here and there, though.ĭecember 14, I see what you mean, but to me eye candy is an innocent term. I think there's not real problem with eye candy so long as people can separate innocent attraction from infatuation a lot of television, movies, and music these days seem to be devoted to showing us excessively pretty people all the time, without much more substance. I won't see movies because of eye candy, but I have been known to watch a bad television show at least a few times because an actor I think is especially gorgeous is on it. ![]()
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